We’ve been matched! (again)

I’m excited that I can finally share some news… we have officially been matched for the second time. The expectant mother is due with a baby girl on June 15 (you read that right, 1.5 weeks from the time of writing this blog)

The timeline of how this all went down…

April 29: Our first match experience a disruption as the expectant mother chose to parent her child.

May 6: We received a text from our caseworker letting us know that they had an expectant mother who might be a good fit, she sent us the details.

May 8: Our profile was presented to the expectant mother, she really liked us and wanted to talk to us

May 9: We met over a zoom call (You know, normal COVID-19 stuff) and the meeting went very well.

May 12: We received word that the expectant mother really liked us and might be choosing us. We were told she’d be meeting with the agency lawyer that day and paperwork would begin to be drafted.

May 14: We received word that the expectant mother had officially “chosen us” And then we hit a slight hitch in the road… more on that later

May 17: We let the agency know that we are comfortable moving forward with the match

May 18 – May 31: Almost agonizing crickets as we waited for all of the paperwork to be finished. Namely for the doctors office to fax over medical records…

June 1: We received the match contract and paperwork

June 2: We signed the contract to officially accept the match

Now that we have all of those details out of the way…

A few thoughts:

As I shared in my last blog post, I never wavered in my confidence that God was working something out. Zach and I were on our way to our first dinner out eating at an actual restaurant in nearly 2 months. Guys, I even put on makeup and did my hair for this momentous occasion. Which if you know me at all, you’ll know that’s a BIG DEAL.

While we were driving to dinner I got a text message from our agency. When I felt the custom vibration pattern of their text notification I could physically feel my stomach drop. Was this “the call”? It was thrilling to be back in the game.

If we’re being honest though, I didn’t have an instant “good feeling” about the match when given just the initial details. In some ways, I think that was actually a good thing, it allowed me the chance to not let my emotions and excitement get the best of me. I’m not sure I want to share publicly online the reasonings for all of that and what exactly was going through my head.. because I just have such a good feeling about this, that I want to keep those things a little closer to my chest.

Zach, ever the voice of reason, was the one to talk me off the ledge and allow us to give the case a shot. We talked some things through and decided to take the leap. The thing we constantly reminded ourselves was the need to just be completely and authentically ourselves when making representations about ourselves to this expectant mother.

We wanted all of us to go into it with our eyes wide open and an honest/clear line of communication.

I told Zach before our video call that “I need a crystal clear gut feeling walking out of that conversation that my initial impression was wrong.” And that’s exactly what happened!

So now we just wait for the call that she’s in labor.. which could happen any day now! And we just continue to navigate what this all will look like in light of COVID-19…